The Third Place

Author – Vignesh

Everyone likes to lament about how life was simple when they were a child and how it only got more complicated as they turned into an adult. All of us would have come across someone saying ‘It was just me studying in school, playing cricket in the playground and then back to home! Ah, wish I could go back to the simpler times!’. Truth is life is still the same three things. Like the school, the playground and the house, all of our life still falls into three categories. We just don’t bother to sort them into three distinct parts and project it to be too obscure when it truly isn’t.
Town planning principles and urban designers have to rely on a basic concept that dictates how people use space. All of us live in just three places.

The first being workplace where you spend your time exercising your skills in exchange for money that enables you to make a living. Horrible bosses, and dirty politics between team mates or simply hating the job you got could make you hate this place. It’s very important that you choose a field of work that you have a reasonable interest on and work in it whole heartedly. Choosing such field is not difficult in this age when you have source of inspiration everywhere! Inspiration to become a sports player, a car racer or even a cop are plenty out there from movies to coaching centre advertisements. What you do and how you feel in your workplace gives you a sense of purpose in life, and it keeps it going.

Second place is your home. It’s the place where you don’t have to put on a mask, a place where you can put no effort towards anything and feel comfortable lying in bed, eating the usual food thinking about nothing at all. It’s your bed, your room, the place where you sleep sound, the kitchen where you cook while listening to your playlist worrying about, of course, your next day at work. Horrible neighbours, rodents and the wrong person you’re married to could make this part of your life undesirable. Sure, it is common to hate your workplace. Its common to stare at the calendar and inch your way towards the weekend but it’s highly uncommon to detest your home, the second place.

Birds mate and build nest. So do mammals. They all get territorial and sexual. We are no different. These two things are all your parents talk about. ‘What job are you going to get? How much will you earn? How soon should you marry? What kind of family should you marry into?’ You’ve heard of all this. These two places of your life are hence very important. Hospitals, railway stations, school, college campus, banks, any government or private organisation buildings where people go to work and those that make up a developing city falls under ‘the first place’. The residential zones on the other hand, the nest we build for ourselves and live inside with our family like a pair of birds protecting their eggs will come under ‘the second place’.

Well, the most overlooked part that is facing major challenges nowadays is ‘the third place’. The cricket ground of our adult lives. What’s the third placed that you go to other than the classroom and your hostel? It is the café, the restaurant, the cinema or the newly opened Max or the usual spot for the fashion shopping spree that you go to. It’s the mall where you meet up with your friends, the park or the beach depending on where you live. It’s the tea shop, the cafeteria in the first floor of your office where you talk about your favourite movie star or about who’s dating whom or what Modi did was right or wrong. It’s the central perk from FRIENDS. Whatever you talk in this place usually dictates your social life. Think about it. The most important fights, realizations and reconciliations you had with your friends and even your ex must have happened in some public recreational place.
What defines a third place? If a person from Chennai enjoys having the beach as the go to meeting spot with his/her friends and a person from Bangalore has parks or malls, what makes the third place? The one thing that’s common between all third places is that you go there and spend money. Malls, cinema theatres and parks all have small shops for snack food, right? Going by that logic any place you go for shopping is a third place. Even the super market where you buy your groceries, the market where you neither work nor sleep qualifies to be the third place. If no one in your family is a doctor and you visit the clinic or the dentist, it becomes ‘the third place’. It’s basically everything else other than your work place or home. The age of the internet has now become a serious threat to this part of our lives. How? Silk and cotton traders used to bring the latest clothes they made to the market, greet their customers with a ears wide smile, offer complimentary foods, gifts and what not. For consumers, visiting clothing stores for Sarees and Dhotis before Diwali in on itself was a one-day trip with family. Both meet up in one location: The market street. These streets were the locations where sellers and consumers meet each other and exchange goods and money. You see where I’m going with this. Online fashion sites removed this place from existence. From theatre chain owners’ growing concern and fear over online streaming services to every other apps like BYJU, ZOMATO, FACEBOOK and other fitness-based applications removing the needs of cinema theatres, schools, restaurants and gyms, we can see the pattern. Although, that’s the virtual world the internet promised us. There will be teachers and students but no schools, and there will be doctors and patients but no hospitals. The USA and many other western countries are facing a massive closing down of a large number of malls in a short period just like how commercial markets and bazaars in India are recently observing dull crowds even during the Diwali week with disappointment. These ‘third places’ are put into question as to their purpose of existence, thus in a way the existence of a city or the urban culture itself. All of this is just an observation. Clearly, these kinds of online sites and apps generate revenue, so no one’s complaining. But is it comforting? Is it comforting to be one of the hunter-gatherer species and receive food on delivery without moving? Is it comforting to not go shopping for a whole day with your family as a pre-Diwali or pre-Christmas ritual but simply scroll down pictures on your phone?
Steam engine trains enabled mass transportation of goods thus encouraging large scale production, thereby kick-starting the first industrial revolution through transportation. Electricity meant that we could make machines to do the mass production and so we got conveyor belts and robots taking away the jobs of the daily wage workers. The third industrial revolution is the beginning of the digital era. This revolution that came rushing to the early 90’s India was the reason why we got banks. Can you imagine a bank lending home loans and maintaining your account safely without computers? These banks lending loans for most of India is the reason why we grew as an economy without mismanaging information of such a large number of participants. The challenge to the existence of ‘the third place’ discussed so far is only the effect of the fourth industrial revolution. Digital era is not the same as the age of internet that we have now. Back then you had to sit on a desk and wait for minutes to have the CPU boot. The amount of time an average person spends in front of the screen was limited to a couple of hours. Now we spend the whole day in front of the phone screen, so it’s not the same. This time, the jobs are not only taken away, the whole of infrastructure is threatened. Should we stop it? No. Is it the right direction that we are going? Only time can tell.

Act of God

Author: Divyang

 

As he looked down, he saw millions of people come together to pray. Not for themselves, not for their families, but for the victims of the horrendous crime called rape. It touched him. Acts of humanity from humans were rare.
Today, however, their support and sympathy was purely selfless, and selfless deeds that do not have a grain of benefit for the doer are the holiest.
He decided he had to intervene. He had let the humans run the world for long enough and they had failed. Miserably. Maybe this will send a message.
It was time, as they say, for a miracle.
****
It had been as if all his limbs had been drained of energy.
He had seen the slutty girl he had been following.  Alone. Seeing his chance, he had pounced. She had been asking for it, really. He had been sure she would give in.
The last woman he had raped had. She had struggled but had finally given up and laid down like a corpse with silent tears flowing down her face.
But as soon as he had grabbed her from the back, he had felt powerless, and the girl had pulled out a knife and a spray from her purse.
As she ran away, a voice pierced his ears. It made his ears bleed, but he could sense that it was divine. It seemed to be all around him, and yet it was only for his ears. The voice was singing something.
By some crazy birth right,
you had assumed it to be okay
okay to rip a woman of her integrity
and to forge them into claws.
Claws that hold her fast,
as she gets beaten down
into something more than a soul
but certainly not human.
For even now she wails
all through the night.
She wails, at the white blank walls,
when she sees the claws
somehow penetrate them
like they had done with her clothes
and crawl up the bed sheet
which she holds tight, up to her chin
like a kid, afraid of monsters under her bed.
For her, the monsters are only too real.
She wails and howls, at the blank walls
from which she is sure the monsters shall emerge.
These are the same walls that cage her,
the same she is not allowed to go out of,
in case she gets ripped again.
By some crazy logic,
you thought it was perfectly fine
to grab her dress and yank it off her.
And to make them into curtains
curtains she is even now afraid to part
in case one of you is standing outside her house
eyeing her like she was your own property.
But very soon, mark my words
those eyes will be scratched out
of their despicable heads.
And that dupatta you tore off,
while she struggled to keep it
in some horrible game of tug of war
shall be used to tie a noose,
and between its folds,
will not be her neck.
But this time, you will not get to take a peek
because hanging from it
will be your head.
In her panic, she had left a cut on his arm. A cut that wouldn’t stop bleeding even after an hour. The water and medicines that he tried to put on it seemed to be repelled, as if they were aware of the misdoings behind the gash.
It had been happening a lot lately. No one seemed to be able to lay hands on a girl these days. A friend of his who tried to get another girl had said that he had felt a searing pain and had gone blind for a few seconds, as the girl ran away. It had seemed ridiculous at that time, but now…
The scar couldn’t heal, and so could not the shame. It was all he felt now, as it dawned on him that he had been the recipient of god’s verdict.
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Child Abuse

Author: Aditi Chandrasekhar

There’s a saddening abundance of occurrences of child abuse that crop up in the news everyday, and it is scary to think about the fact that these are just the cases that are reported about. Child abuse is more prevalent that you’d think inside the walls of a house. Obviously, it is morally wrong to abuse any living being. In the case of child abuse though, there are a multitude of consequences (some very complex) that manifest in the victim, and these psychological repercussions often affect them throughout their lives, or at least for a significantly long period of their lives. Some scars that child abuse leaves on the victim could be physical, but there are mental ones that accompany these too-they damage the victim’s relationships and general ability to function normally. An example is a lack of trust in relationships-it becomes extremely difficult for a victim of child abuse to foster healthy, nurturing relationships with their peers as the definition of trust itself is very vague according to them, due to the simple logic- If someone they loved and respected hurt them, then what is the meaning of trust? Another consequence can be having constant feelings of worthlessness. Positive reinforcements and acts of forgiveness are important for a child’s development. They provide a strong foundation for a good self-esteem and sense of self, later on in the child’s life. If the child has been abused, they inculcate thoughts of being worthless and this stays with them for a long time. When they grow up, abused children may neglect their education and later on, adult responsibilities like their family and job. There is a higher probability of abused children to turn to extremely harmful vices like alcohol and drugs to deal with the stress and anxiety that they experience as a result of not being able to identify and regulate their emotions. There is a common misconception that child abuse is just physical acts of violence but there are actually many forms of abuse-neglect, sexual abuse, exploitation and emotional abuse too. Regardless of the type of abuse, there are many negative effects that follow and hamper the child’s growth. It is up to us to be aware of the people surrounding us, check up on them and act on any signs they may be showing. If you suspect that a child is a victim of abuse or if they confide in you about some type of abuse that they’re facing, then it is vital to keep the following things in mind:

  1. Don’t give in to denial-It is our mind’s natural reaction to reject something that seems almost too unpleasant or shocking to be true but displaying this emotion in front of the child will only harm them even more. It is important to remain calm and reassuring.
  2. Don’t interrogate-Asking questions instead of letting the child decide what and how they’re going to tell you about the abuse, will inevitably fluster them or make them uncomfortable. It is necessary to give them time and space to tell their story.
  3. Provide safety and comfort-Reassure them that they weren’t in the wrong, and that you took them seriously. Think twice about any actions you decide to take, as the child’s safety is the most important consideration in the situation and anything that may threaten it should be avoided. Don’t neglect the situation and take it to the professionals.

Religion

Author: Divyang

 

Surviving through the ages,
we excluded it from the clutches of time.
But why should we,
as we leave old stuff behind,
and step ripe, into this modern age?

In the name of religion,
people are no more people, but animals
and cutthroats. It is a tool,
to make people drive trishuls through live guts.
Communities turned onto prey and predators,
all in the name of God.
This makes me wonder,
if religion needs to go.

In the name of religion,
these ‘secular’ politicians buy,
half the crowd with words,
and the other half with money.
This makes me wonder,
if religion needs to go.

The same people who worship the khans,
did not remember their favourite stars,
when they lighted fire,
to a crying Muslim child.
The terror of a baby,
fails to horrify them.
This makes me wonder,
if religion needs to go.

The same people who worship,
the ‘nine devis’, did not flinch,
while molesting ninety devis.
This makes me wonder,
if religion needs to go.

Religion today is a hoax,
and its followers blinded.
It cooks nothing but,
the dish of enmity,
with the stench of death.
This brings me to the cruel reality,
that perhaps,
religion needs to go.

A Chance in Disguise

Author: Nikita Suryawanshi

 

All throughout our lifetimes, we undergo numerous experiences which shape and define us. These different episodes in our lives are what make us distinct from others. They are what prove that our struggles and our stories are unique. However, there stands one experience that is common to all. All of us, irrespective of our backgrounds and our fights, face this incident, or more of a feeling. The feeling of déjà vu.
The term déjà vu is French and means, literally, “already seen.” Those who have experienced the feeling describe it as an overwhelming sense of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. You feel as if you have been through the same situation before, even though in reality, it has never happened in the past. This sense of familiarity can be so strong and disorienting sometimes that you may want to overlook the facts and believe this feeling.
A few years back, while scrolling through the internet, I came across an article in which the author was stating his belief regarding déjà vu. He believed that déjà vu is nothing but a flashback from our past life. Now you may have a doubt that if it is a moment in our past life, why do we experience it again in our present lives? To this, the writer said that he thinks that every birth in this universe has a higher goal. He believes that unless we achieve this goal, we are reborn over and over again. That is why experience this feeling of déjà vu.
This got me pondering that even though the thought of being stuck in an infinite loop is scary; maybe it is not so bad at all. How many times do we wish that we could go back in time and change something; how many times do we wish to change our decisions to make things better; how many times do we regret an action and pray for time to take it back. Maybe this is the universe’s way of giving us that chance to fix our mistakes.
The hope of getting an opportunity to live this life again, to start all over again and to make a difference for good is very gratifying. Perhaps it is a superstition, but the possibility of beginning afresh and amending all my mistakes makes me want to believe in the writer, in the theory that universe does shower us with hidden gifts.

Why I Love Animated Movies

Author: Afreen

 

I love cartoon movies. And when I say that, I mean that I’m that fussy four year old who would beg their parents to take them to the every animated movie that would be screened in the theatres or just go by herself and enjoy it with a bunch of noisy kids.
Since I was a kid, I have loved reading books with sketches or drawn-in pictures that lay open in front of my eyes. I loved watching the places a person’s imagination could go just by unrealistic world building, believable characters and compelling plots. They invite conversation with the thoughts, one unspoken and kind. Of course back then, I just thought that ‘The mermaid’s tail is really shiny or ‘I want to play an instrument that will make animals follow me!’. Now I realise it stretches a bit farther in head where imaginative animation is a marvel. Still, being up to speed on all the latest toons is in the lead for me. As much as I want to be all ‘grown up’ and watch the more popular movies that everyone geeks out about, I always go back to my favourite cartoons at the end of the day.
As dimensions of cartoons evolved from 2 to 3, the impression of it on my mind only strengthened. Even though this sounds very far-fetched, whenever I’m watching fictious characters do things that I could have never imagined, I feel that I could do these impossible actions too, if I dared to.
My brain is always brimming with unnecessary thoughts, confusion and chaos. In the process of living, my mind becomes a little clouded on the comprehensibility part. Watching a cartoon movie makes that incomprehensible jargon disappear and pilots my topsy-turvy excited and sadly disorganised thoughts some peace. My mind clears when I use an animated movie as a stress buster.
This fascination towards animation of mine is not an obsession that would dwindle away into oblivion. It’s not an outlandish chill factor that I want to add to my make-up. When I watch a movie, I’m one hundred percent doing it to get away from real life. Meaning, that for once I don’t want to care about the economic setbacks or the ethical downslides that our society is in. Instead, I want to jump into a world of flippancy & fantasy where every slide of visuals has endless events happening, where reason or consequences aren’t paramount, but satisfying your heart and having a laugh are. Where every second is a creation, visually, and imaginatively. And do I even need to mention the songs, background music, subtle humour throughout, that leaves no place to not like an animated movie? These movies are sometimes worked upon for a whopping 5 years, with everything from the character introductions to the end credits on point.

The Lion King. *happy noises*

Fat Shaming

Author: Aditi Chandrasekar

 

It is a given that everyone has faced numerous judgments on their bodies throughout their lifetime-either it is too big, too wide, too small, oddly shaped, unevenly coloured, or sometimes even too perfect. For the majority of my childhood, I was constantly subject to remarks about my body being too fat. I remember experiencing bouts of sadness, followed by penning down angry rants about the world being a mean place. Going shopping for clothes was one of the most dreaded occasions, because it called for the spotlight on my body and many tears were inevitably shed in changing rooms. In fact, just about any situation that brought even the slightest attention to my physical shape was an awful time. I didn’t voice these feelings, because I mostly either wrote about it or bottled it up inside of me, but if I did, I would’ve learned that I wasn’t alone- Body standards that the commercial universe tries to stuff down our throats has been a looming issue for a long time now. Discriminatory behaviour against bigger people has been omnipresent, and the situation does not seem to be improving. Recent news saw a television host and a personal trainer (on separate occasions) advocating fat shaming, claiming that it helps combat obesity/general unhealthy weight gain. I believe that this is completely untrue, and it is beyond me how people so firmly believe that berating and belittling are effective tactics. From what I have learnt from mine and my peers’ experiences, healthy weight loss is something that can only come out of a healthy mindset and consistent emotional support from loved ones- it simply cannot be coerced by sanctimonious opprobrium. The numerous instances of fat-shaming leading to depression, anxiety and self-destructive behaviour are blaring proofs that bullying cannot constructively lead to a healthier lifestyle for anyone. Despite this, it continues to be a matter of debate if fat-shaming is necessary in modern times, with despairing statistics like 66% of adults in England being overweight (as of 2017). It is at times like these that we need to remember how easy it is to assume that overeating or weight gain is a result of failure of willpower and discipline. In reality, there can be multiple underlying biological reasons for weight gain that involve metabolism and appetite, that are beyond a person’s control. A 2019 study found out that not only does fat-shaming not work, it actually leads to a health decline both physically and mentally. It was found that most participants ended up gaining weight, and also afflicted with psychological problems. For a while in college, when I had lost a significant chunk of weight, the same people who called me big, were worried about me becoming too thin. It was confusing, irritating, but also relieving to realise that  judgements on physical appearance is a part of parcel of life itself and I’m still learning to take it with a grain of salt. It’s only because I had the awareness and support from my loved ones, that I reached this conclusion. Unfortunately, there are so many others who have faced harsh criticism on their appearances, and are struggling to cope with it alone. If we want to combat fat-shaming and its detrimental effects, it is important for everyone to share their personal experiences with weight and develop a safe community to promote healthy weight loss. This, combined with more accessibility to different options for food and exercise, is the only way to make progress in the coupled combat against obesity and fat-shaming.

THE HYDERABAD ENCOUNTERS- JUSTICE SERVED? AT WHAT COST?

Author: Rahul Srinivas

 

We know that the number of rapes keep increasing in the country and we, the citizens are more aware and enraged about it, now more than ever. Thanks to social media. The cycle of women being raped and the guilty getting away with it, while we stood and watched this injustice happen kept repeating until the 6th of this month.

The Hyderabad rape case consisted of a woman veterinarian of age twenty-five, who was brutally gang raped and murdered, and her body burnt. This inhuman act enraged the whole nation. The four suspects in this case were Arif, Jollu Shiva, Jollu Naveen Kumar and Chintakunta Chenna Keshavulu. These four people were arrested to be interrogated. There was no concrete proof that all four had a part in this unspeakable act, and so they were taken for interrogation.

But, on December 6th, the alleged rapists were shot to death by the Hyderabad police. All the four suspects were encountered by the police. The police claimed that the suspects tried to flee and were armed, and hence they had no other option other than to shoot them for self-defense. This does sound a bit far fetched and cinematic.

But the effect these encounters had on our citizens was different. On that day, the citizens who were enraged of the injustice, the families of the victims who were mourning their loss and the millions of helpless souls that prayed for the ones who passed; everyone got an answer. Everyone stood united against the injustice. Everyone felt at peace for a while on knowing the fact that finally, someone did something.

But let us look at the facts for a minute here. These four alleged rapists were after all, alleged. There wasn’t any concrete proof to prove them guilty. And fortunately, or unfortunately, our system says ‘Innocent until proven guilty’. And in front of the eyes of the law, they were not guilty. In front of the eyes of the nation, they were not innocent.

There was a lot of controversy surrounding this encounter. A lot of politicians and celebrities like Akhilesh Yadav and Vivek Anand Oberoi, tweeted supporting the encounter while some stood against it as that is just not how the system works. But our laws allow encounters for self-defense. But is that what actually happened is still a mystery. Shooting and the killing the suspects at the same spot they allegedly killed the victim seems to be a bit much to be a coincidence though.

On one hand, the system does not allow this. But on the other hand, I feel that our system on itself is flawed. It takes a lot of time for concrete proof and to prove that the suspects are guilty. For instance, seven years have passed since the brutal rape and murder of the Delhi medical student Nirbhaya. The four accused are yet to be hanged even after getting the death sentence. A system that takes seven years to hang criminals who are proven guilty, is neither a fast nor an effective system.

Another flaw in our system is that the suspects can not be held in custody for that long as it is really easy to get a bail in our country. And is animals like these get bail this easily, they will continue to do these brutal acts again. So, basically the system would have allowed these suspects into the country to roam free and commit crimes while it should have already punished them for their crimes. The recent UP Unnao rape victim’s situation clearly saw the full extent of this flaw.

The victim was raped by two men, who were granted bail. A few days ago, when she was asked to appear on court for the hearing, she was abducted by five men- the 2 accused, their fathers and another male. They took her to a field, poured kerosene on her and burned her. She called the police and ran for almost a kilo metre by herself, in that condition. She was then admitted and sadly, passed away in the hospital.

Her final words said that she wanted to see those who did this to her be hanged. She died without her last words coming true.

So now you decide. Was the encounter of alleged rapists and going against the system for justice wrong? Or is a system that doesn’t punish the guilty and allows these animals to roam free wrong?

Battling

Author: Nikita Suryawanshi

 

We all have heard people around us saying that life is full of struggles or what is life without a few ups and downs in it. Having been told this multiple times throughout our lifetimes, this beautiful quote has become something whose meaning is lost on us now. Yes, we have accepted the fact that one definitely does have to overcome numerous hurdles to achieve their goals. All of us are struggling to survive each day and to get through the difficult times of our lives.

But our own hardships have taken such precedence over others’ that we tend to think that no can have it as bad as me. And so in this situation, we are prone to disregard the hardships of other people. We, knowingly or unknowingly, may be impertinent to others and hurt their sentiments. Not everyone may be sharing or open about their problems. They may put on a smiling mask and pretend that everything is fine. This, however, does not give anyone the right to be inconsiderate towards their battles. Because, visible or not, someone has it worse.

Sometimes it may also go the other way round. Maybe someone you have known well and for a long time might suddenly be acting distant. May be they will yell at you or stop talking to you altogether. The point is, you never know what people are dealing with inside, nor what they’ve had to face in life. People don’t act out towards others in strange, inappropriate, or hurtful ways because they’re doing well in life. They act out towards others because they’re hurting inside, because their pain is getting the better of them, or because they’re on the losing end of their own inner battle.

One of my all time favourite books has been “A Thousand Splendid Suns” by Khaled Hosseini. The story revolves around the lives of a young girl named Laila and her neighbour, Mariam. Laila has grown up seeing Mariam in the neighbourhood everyday and has formed a judgement of her own, as has Mariam for Laila. However, circumstances lead to their lives being intertwined. This when they both realise that the pictures that they have painted of each other in their minds were very wrong. Laila sees the reasons behind Mariam’s distant behaviour and the latter realises that Laila’s life is not as perfect as she may have thought.

What the book taught me was that you never have any idea what someone is facing. Some person you see every day, talk to everyday, even a stranger you walk past on the road may be fighting battles that you never could have imagined. Everyone is confronting their own monsters and this made me realise how inconsiderate I might have been towards others’ struggles. As quoted by Shaikh Ruhi, “Everyone is fighting their own battle and maybe their fight is bigger and worse than yours.”

#MeToo

Author: Afreen

The #MeToo initiative was a movement started to combat sexual harassment and assault. It went viral in the past years as a way for victims of harassment to vent out their frustration and to call out their alleged harassers. It still continues to pick up steam to this day. Its main purpose revolved around the empowerment of vulnerable individuals and to give others a sense of the magnitude of the issue of harassment.

Using social media as a platform to reveal the prevalence of sexual violence in society, it became all the craze with people to gain the right to relate with others, and call out demeaning predatory behaviour.As the initiative met with success, by acknowledgement from even high profile celebrities, the notion that harassment shouldn’t be kept under wraps became a worldwide sensation.

Keeping in mind the publicity one gains from participating in this movement, many have filed false allegations against innocent people, without evidence, leading to a devastating effect on the lives of the accused. Like almost every other social campaign, it has fallen victim to opportunism from individuals.

Because of such disgraceful people, both sexes suffer greatly. Men are now afraid to compliment women in any way, touch them in acceptable situations or afraid to simply be alone with women at all. One bold liar is all it takes to have our lives in shambles. Men aren’t the only victims here. The price women pay for this extra security is skepticism and an arms-length approach by men in dealing with them both professionally and personally.

So, has the #MeToo really changed anything? One can’t definitely say that it has made absolutely no impact on our community. The numbers of men and women healing after confiding in to others and opening up to their therapists have shown an exponential increase after the introduction of #MeToo. The #MeToo movement gives people the courage to speak out, and since most sexual assault goes unreported

As controversial as #MeToo is, its important to remember that movements like these, have positive effects that outweigh the detrimental ones and does, in fact, bring about a large change in the mindsets of people.