We start telling lies when we learn that we don’t have to listen to everything our parents say. We can do whatever we want too. We might have also started lying with one mistake or bad decision that forced us to lie about something. With one lie, the others come naturally.
By the time we’re teenagers, we either start doing things we’re not supposed to do or don’t do the things we’re supposed to. We hide things from our parents and not call it lying. Well, guess what? White lies are lies too.
What about the excuses we come up with to cover up things? I mean, our brain goes into full power at that time. Our creativity blossoms like never before. If only our parents knew how smart we can be when we actually want to be!
I fully understand the temptation to not tell your parents everything in your lives. Maybe because they won’t approve or because you just don’t want to tell them.
School and College just give teenagers another outlet to lie about things.
So many of us have come up with amazing excuses to bunk class when we are just too lazy to go. Of course, we don’t need to come up with excuses if we have friends who are kind enough to give a proxy for us. The irony is in the number of proxies one person gives in one class.
Teens lie about practically everything. What, where, when, why and how. Can you think of one thing teens today haven’t lied about?
I mean, keeping everything mentioned above aside, why lie? You have no idea what you are missing out on.
Your friends doing your assignments and homework for you makes your friendship stronger. Agreed, but they are getting double the practice doing those problems than you are. You’ll have to work twice as hard during exams.
What do you get by bunking classes and/or giving proxy? More time to sleep? Attending classes yourself will save you time and energy when you’re studying for your exams.
You lie to do the things you know your parents won’t approve of. Ever wondered why your parents won’t let you do it? Suppose your dad’s not letting you drive a bike. Maybe he had a bike and had a bad experience himself or knows someone who did.
If you’re lying because of peer pressure, that just means that you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. If they ask you to lie AND you do it, God knows what they’ll ask you to do next. Don’t you have any morality in you? And how moldable can u be?
Well, here’s what I have to say to all the Pretty Little Teenage Liars out there. You know your parents brought you up with the lack of absolutely nothing. No matter how much your teenage hormones make you disagree with what you know deep inside, you know that you are where you are because of them. The least you can do for them is be honest. It’s a lot of ask. I know, I’m one of you too but your parents deserve it and you owe them that much.
Another way to look at it and a sort of negative reinforcement to dare you to not lie:
You may not be willing to admit what you did or didn’t do because you’re not proud of it and/or you’re worried about what others will think of you. First of all, don’t do it again. Now that you’ve already done it, be fearless. If you made a mistake then admit it. Lying about it would just be another mistake. Also, one lie leads to another and before you know it, you have a weaved a whole story. (Creativity blossoming alert!)
Lies do no good for anybody. Eventually- when you get caught in the lie, you’ll be in double the trouble you were avoiding previously. So instead you can be fearless by being honest.
-Mariam Sunil Varkey